Letting Go

We all have those couples in our lives that we know shouldn't be together. You may like one more then the other, you may not like one at all, or you may love them both so much, either way we sit back and watch their roller coaster day in and day out. I don't know about you single ladies, but there is a reason I am single. I won't put up with bullshit. Yet, I have friends that are in relationships with all sorts of craziness and I say to myself "I am so glad I am single." Then I sit back and look at my friends situation and I start to get angry. I will say it, ladies we are emotional creatures and we act in stupid ways. I have been stupid in my day I admit it. Some of us outgrow it while others have men who continue to fuel it, and we just let it keep burning. It gets to the point where you let the little things start to explode for no reason. You could be texting your buddy about the basketball game with your girl sitting right next to you over your shoulder and she still will accuse you of doing something wrong.

I get angry. One because its unnecessary drama and 2 because once a woman gets to this point she starts emotionally scarring these men who could be great guys, but because you got so crazy you have now turned these great men with potential into giant assholes. Then a woman, like me, comes along to pick up your now ex-boyfriend see their potential and find out you really fucked him up and now he is acting a fool. I won't put up this this bullshit, so he is quickly finding his way to becoming my ex-boyfriend. There came a point in your relationship with that guy that you knew it was over and you kept it going. I understand, us woman have a hard time letting go and admitting defeat. I don't want to admit when I made a mistake. No one really does. The reason we don't let go is because we hate to see our men do better. We don't want to see the men who made us miserable move on to a better woman, making her happy the way he couldn't make you. Lots of woman want to keep them as miserable as they made them feel. The thing to remember is, you need to be happy too and life isn't always about you.

I hated watching my ex's move on and have happy lives with woman after they treated me like shit. You know when your ready to move on to the next step in your dating life when you can be happy for those men. I was obviously not made for them and the other woman was. That has probably been the next hardest thing for me to succumb to. It takes a lot for a woman to swallow her pride, its a huge pill to swallow. I wanted him as miserable as I was but there is no reason for anyone to be unhappy in a relationship and if your not its o.k. to move on. Your happiness will come and whether we like or not he needs to be happy too. We as human beings need to stop breaking each other down all the time. We are just causing damage to ourselves and all of our future relationships. If you find yourself in a roller coaster relationship its time to end it and move on. Let someone else love them and let everyone lead normal and happier lives.